Every Change Begins Within
Do you ever feel like you are your own worst enemy? Like you wish you were different, as if you’re the one person who can’t be trusted, you’re the one person who’s always screwing things up. If so, you’re not alone. A lot of people feel that way. I feel that way.
People find it hard to speak about their feelings, but it’s always better to share your feelings with people who you are comfortable with like your parents, friends, siblings, cousins, relatives, or maybe an acquaintance who will not judge you, just listen to you. My friend was also experiencing the same feeling during the early times of the pandemic. She told me she was having issues with her family and that they were constantly body-shaming her and criticizing her in every possible way. They made her feel as if she was not good enough but I didn’t realize that the situation would aggravate her to such an extent that she would feel the need to harm herself. To be honest, I was confused as to what to do so she starts feeling better about herself and doesn’t focus on all the negative comments she receives.
After some research, I finally found a solution to her issue! Although it was an amateur way of managing the circumstances, it did help her to come out of the situation which made me happy.
The first step is to understand why you feel that way? Why do you feel as if you are not good enough? Or why do you underestimate yourself? Often, our negative self-talk is the result of negative experiences or messages we’ve received from others. Maybe you were criticized for making a mistake. Or maybe you were told that you’re not good enough or that you can’t do things right. These negative messages stay with us, making us doubt ourselves and our capabilities. But it’s important to remember that these messages aren’t true. They’re just momentary thoughts, and the best you can do is ignore them. The next step is to start building up your self-confidence. This can be done by accepting yourself for who you are. No one is as perfect as it seems, not even the Kardashians! Focus more on your self-growth. Don’t let those social media “influencers” influence you into thinking that you don’t fit into “those” beauty standards. Finally, it’s important to practice positive self-talk and be grateful for little things in life. For example, rather than saying: “I failed and embarrassed myself”; you can say: “I’m proud of myself for even trying. That took courage”.
Today’s society needs compassionate souls, not just passionate professionals. How imperative it is for the guardians or parents to provide a healthy environment of relationships and empathetic experiences early in the life of a person. Many of us don’t have the courage to come out in the open and talk about our feelings. We still need help and might want someone who can hug us and say “Don’t worry I am there with you, no matter whatever happens, you have my back.”
Start to accept and embrace yourself because “Every Change begins Within”. This blog is to help the people who are going through these tough times and don’t know what to do. It is undoubtedly hard to ignore all the comments made by people, especially strangers who don’t even know you on the internet but, “kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna”. Start focusing more on your self-growth and trust me things will surely improve.
